Growing up with undiagnosed autism is increasingly being recognized as a distinct source of chronic, complex trauma, also known as, C-PTSD. When a child’s fundamental way of experiencing the world is dismissed, punished, or misunderstood, it creates an environment of... Read More

As I continue to counsel neurodivergent individuals and couples, more and more are coming to me already diagnosed. Some of these are self diagnosed and others have a formal diagnosis. I would like to think that it is because the... Read More

In intimate partnerships, especially neurodiverse relationships—silence can feel like rejection. But what if silence isn’t avoidance? What if it’s emotional processing? Understanding alexithymia can transform how we interpret silence, frustration and emotional disconnect and offer new pathways for connection. It... Read More

I am a couples therapist who specializes in neurodiverse couples; couples in which one person is on the autism spectrum. As a couples therapist, my focus is the relationship, as opposed to the individuals in it. However, recently I’ve been... Read More

Nuances in an Autistic Romantic Relationship I read a story about a therapist and her first date with her husband. They have been partners now for 30 years.  He asked her, “Are we on a date?” On the second date,... Read More