In intimate partnerships, especially neurodiverse relationships—silence can feel like rejection. But what if silence isn’t avoidance? What if it’s emotional processing? Understanding alexithymia can transform how we interpret silence, frustration and emotional disconnect and offer new pathways for connection. It... Read More

The dog lay between them on the couch, head resting on Anna’s thigh, tail brushing Pete’s knee. Neither spoke. The movie cast flickering light across their faces, but neither watched. Pete shifted slightly, the cushions sighing beneath him. “You’re still mad.”Anna... Read More

The concept of “Love Languages” popularized by Pastor Gary Chapman’s book, The Five Love Languages has become a widespread and casual part of everyday conversation. However, I rarely find them helpful for my neurodiverse couples or individuals. Many of my... Read More

I am a couples therapist who specializes in neurodiverse couples; couples in which one person is on the autism spectrum. As a couples therapist, my focus is the relationship, as opposed to the individuals in it. However, recently I’ve been... Read More

What Might be Holding You Back From Therapy? Many people hesitate about therapy. Some still feel that getting help for marital or even individual problems, is a sign of weakness. They may tell themselves that their problems are their business,... Read More

Nuances in an Autistic Romantic Relationship I read a story about a therapist and her first date with her husband. They have been partners now for 30 years.  He asked her, “Are we on a date?” On the second date,... Read More

Among the strongest partnerships are those in which one member is on the autistic spectrum, but there are unique challenges, presented by neurological differences. Needless to say, the challenges are often in communication. Partners can feel as though they are... Read More